Oral stage

When normal growth and development is hindered during the oral stage of growth (during the babyhood feeding period), the oral character is created. If a child does not get enough of its mother or her nurturing during this stage of growth, the child experiences abandonment and is forced to become independent too early. The person (the child or as an adult) also develops a
fear of asking for their true needs, a belief in the lack of nourishment and nurturing, and a belief in abandonment. The person does not know how to ask or receive naturally and healthily. Their asking then becomes tainted with possessiveness, clinging and dependency, and its receiving is tainted with greed and spite. They also demand to be nurtured by others,

even as an adult. This person also has a deep inner feeling of being empty, abandoned, and disadvantaged. The person also refuses to take responsibility for their life, suppresses their rage (over being abandoned) and aggression, is unable to be alone, and constantly feels the need to fill their inner emptiness by seeking to be surrounded constantly by other people. This person
uses sex to achieve the closeness and contact they feel they miss.

This person also tends to expect and experience rejection and pretense. They therefore feel trapped in a double blind because on one hand, they feel a need for closeness but they also believe that such closeness will end in abandonment and pain.
People of the oral character structure heal by beginning to understand and trust the abundance of the universe, learn to give and receive with unconditional love (no conditions, no possessing), understand and acknowledge their needs, and take responsibility over all that is in their lives and drop the victim mentality. They also need to face their fear of being alone and
abandoned, go within and find the love and fulfillment that is inside them but denied. This will enable them to become truly and naturally self-reliant, fulfilled, and able to experience the abundance and love of the universe. Once they transform, these people make excellent and natural teachers, have an aptitude and interest in a wide variety of areas, and are highly
intelligent and creative.